What is the one quality that all successful people have in common? They have unshakable confidence.
Confident people don't spend time wondering if they are going to be successful. They know that success is inevitable. They have an incredible amount of belief and certainty in themselves and their abilities.
I have been successful in multiple areas of my life because I made it a priority to cultivate confidence within myself every day.
You have to believe that you can make anything happen, no matter what obstacles or barriers may stand in your way. Always remember that your perceptions shape your reality.
If you adopt the mindset that anything is possible, you will be unstoppable.
Brian Tracy once said, “confidence is a habit that can be developed by acting as if you already had the confidence you desire to have.”
By consciously taking specific actions, like having a daily morning ritual or investing in yourself by way of a training program, a coach or a mentor, you can train your mind to behave more confidently.
If you want to be successful, you need to work harder on yourself more than anything else. Nothing will work unless you work.
You need to believe in your potential and act on it. Confidence is just an emotional state. It is up to you to make that state a reality!
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Hey everyone, this is Stefan from projectlifemastery.com. In this video, I want to talk to you about confidence, having confidence in yourself, having confidence in the process, having confidence in your business, having confidence in a goal, a result, a dream, and vision. Whatever it is that you want to pursue in your life, you have to have confidence. You have to have belief. You have to have certainty in yourself and the belief that you can make anything happen.
Whatever it is, no matter what the obstacles, no matter what the barriers, no matter what it is, you have to believe in yourself that you can make it happen. You have to believe in yourself that you can be successful, that you can achieve the goal or the result that you're after, but you also have to have belief and confidence in the process, in the journey, in the business, in the opportunity, in the goal, and in the vision that you have.
If you have this incredible vision where you want to make millions of dollars, you want to live on the beach, and you want to travel the world, you have to actually believe that that's possible for yourself. To take it a step further, don't just have that belief, but also have the conviction that that will be a reality for you one day. You might not even know how, but if you have that belief and you have that faith in yourself that you will be able to make it happen, and that anything is possible for yourself.
Faith means that you believe when there's no reason to believe at all
You have to have faith, and oftentimes, having faith means that you believe when there's no reason to believe at all. I've been getting emails from people and working with people, and I see so much lack of confidence, a lack of belief. They're not even really sure that they're going to be successful. They're not even sure whether or not they can. They've got the training and they've got everything step-by-step, but they don't even believe in themselves that they can actually implement it.
They don't believe in themselves that they can create their business and have success. If you don't even believe in yourself, I don't know what to say. There's no hope for you, because nothing will work unless you work, right? If you know certain people out there, everything they touch turns to gold. Everything that they pursue, they're successful at, and the reason for that is because of them, their belief and their confidence in themself.
If you look at the most successful people in history, the top achievers in the world, the top athletes, the top celebrities, the top 1% of anything, they all have an incredible amount of confidence, belief, and certainty within themselves that translates to every other aspect of their life.
For myself, I've been able to be successful in multiple areas of my life, not just financially and in my business, but I also made an incredible change and transformation in myself for dating and attracting people in my life, for meeting and approaching random strangers, to become a confident public speaker, to be able to transform my body and do two fitness shows called the WBFF and transform my body, get up on stage and do fitness modeling.
I've been able to transfer that confidence to different aspects of my life and be successful in multiple areas. That's all because of the confidence that I've been able to cultivate within myself. You need to have that. You need to condition that every day. How do you develop it? There's a few ways I can share with you. A few things that work for me.
Morning rituals as the driving force in my life
Number one, you have heard me say this again and again, but I've been doing morning rituals since I was 17 years old. I contribute morning rituals to being the driving force in shaping my life. Because it's what you do every single day, how you condition yourself daily that shapes who you are, not something that you just do once in a while. You can't just go to a seminar once in a while and expect your life to change for the better. You need to have a daily practice, a daily ritual of conditioning and shaping who you want to be.
If you want to transform your body, it's not like you can just go to the gym for a weekend and expect your body to be transformed for the rest of your life. You have to condition every day. You've got to work out and build that muscle. That's what a morning ritual is. I take that time every single day no matter what since I was 17 years old to condition my mind, my body, and my spirit to shape and create who I am.
What you see before you right now is the result of daily conditioning and having that morning ritual. Every morning, today was no exception, I woke up, I got on my rebounder. I was jumping up and down. I'm conditioning myself through affirmations, through asking myself questions, through feeding my mind, reading and learning. That gives you an incredible sense of confidence. It makes you believe that anything is possible.
I have certain affirmations where every single day I say to myself, “I Stefan, see, know, hear, and feel that I am confident, that I am determined, that I am unstoppable,” and when you say that to yourself every day with intensity, with emotion like you really mean it, then you take that on as a belief system. You carry that power, that energy within yourself, and you believe it. Whatever you say to yourself enough times, again and again with repetition and emotional intensity, you will believe, right?
How else do you think you believed all the negative stuff that you have in your head anyways? It's because you conditioned that again and again. You kept saying to yourself over and over again that you're not good enough, that you're a failure, or someone else said that to you. Maybe you had a parent, maybe you had a family member or a bully or whatever that every day or frequently was saying that you're not good enough or nothing was ever good enough, and so you don't have any confidence.
Even though when you're younger you don't really have control over the influences in your life, at the stage of life you're in right now, you have full control and you can reprogram and recondition yourself to be whoever you want to be. Having that morning ritual every day where I condition my mind and speak out loud what I want, who I want to become, who I am, and what I stand for, that's an incredible way to shape my belief systems.
Model and adopt the physiology of successful people
Also, you have to understand that confidence and certainty are just an emotional state and that you can put yourself in that state at any moment that you choose. Right now in this moment, you could stand the way you would stand if you're totally confident.
You can change your physiology. You could put a look in your eyes. You could breathe fully. You can model and adopt the physiology of other people that are successful and confident just by modeling, just by faking it until you make it. The truth is, when you fake it, you have made it, because that moment that you change your physiology, you're going to feel more confident and just be more aware of your emotional state. You can change your confidence just through visualization, by visualizing the result that you want.
A really great book for that is called “Psycho-Cybernetics: A New Way to Get More Living Out of Life“. It basically teaches you how the top athletes envision themselves every single moment making that shot or being successful or winning the trophy or achieving the result or the goal that they're after. The more that you see it in your mind, the more it becomes real for you, then the more certainty that you have.
You could develop your confidence just by reading every day, reading these incredible stories of those people that went from zero to hero, from rags to riches. I've read Sam Walton's book, “Made In America“, the founder of Walmart. I've read Jeff Bezos's, “The Everything Store”. I've read all these incredible biographies and these self-help books, and when I do that, what happens is I'm taking on the beliefs and the positive message of the authors and the people in these books.
I take that on myself and I start to believe it. When you see enough role models, enough examples of people that became successful, then you start to believe that you can be successful as well. That's an incredible way. Also, there are videos and interviews that I provide here on my YouTube channel of other people that built up successful online businesses, and that provide a role model and a reference for you, that if all these other people have been able to do it, then you can as well, right?
You've got to start now and you build that as you go
The more references that you have, the stronger that your belief will be. That's a great way to condition and build that confidence, that certainty within yourself, is by having rituals like this – reading, feeding your mind, and also investing in yourself. That's why I'm huge on learning and improving myself, because when I invest in training when I go to a seminar, or when I have a coach or a mentor, they give me confidence, right?
Right now, you might feel lost, like you don't know what to do. You don't feel like you have any confidence in yourself, but if you actually have a step-by-step program, a training that can guide you from A to Z, that thousands of other people have already been through before, and have gotten results with, that you're learning for someone that created it that has the results that you want, than that gives you a huge edge and a huge advantage.
You don't have to worry about competition and all that sort of stuff because you believe in yourself and you believe in the process. Whenever people say, “Oh, I'm worried about competition. I'm worried about saturation.” What they're really saying is they are lacking confidence. A confident person doesn't have any fears or worries about that, right? They just have belief in themselves. They believe that no matter what it is they pursue or go after, they're going to be successful at no matter what.
I see so many of these fear-based questions that people have. It's like, if you don't have confidence, what can I tell you? How are you going to make anything work in your life? You've got to develop that, and if you don't have to develop that person, then pursue it because often times people use that as an excuse. They say, “Well, I don't have the confidence right now, so I'm going to develop that first, and then I'm going to start a business.” No, you've got to start now and you build that as you go.
Another great way of doing that is by achieving your goals. That's why I'm a big fan of setting these little micro goals, these monthly or weekly goals, that when you set a goal, you achieve it. It's an attainable, realistic goal for yourself. When you achieve it, you get confidence. You get references. You start to believe, “Wow, you know what? I set something on my mind and it was just an invisible thought, and then I made it real. I turned invisible into the visible”.
I turned something that was in my head to reality
When you do that, it's like, “Oh my God, I created that. Now, what else can I create?” You set the next goal and you achieve that. You see, most people set these crazy unrealistic goals that they never achieve. Sure enough, they just keep bailing again and again because their goals are like, “I want to make a million dollars,” and they never even made a dollar online. Sure enough, they don't achieve that goal, and so they don't feel good about themselves. Their self-esteem goes lower.
The confidence goes down, and then soon enough it's like every other goal you set. You're not going to believe you're going to be able to make happen because you kept failing time and time again. That's why I say to people, your first goal is to make $1 online in your online business. You achieve that, you get confidence from that, and then the next goal, you make $100, and you get confidence from that. Then $200, you get confidence from that. You slowly build it up, instead of just setting these crazy unrealistic goals that you have a 99.9% chance of failing to achieve. Don't get me wrong.
It's great to have those goals, but those are the long-term vision goals that you have 5 years or 10 years from now, right? Where the short-term ones are the ones that you are just trying to set yourself up to win, to build that confidence within yourself. All of these are different ways to build that confidence, but in a lot of cases, you've just got to believe. You just got to have that faith. Whenever you catch yourself operating from fear, you've got to be able to cut that off and say, “No, I will make this happen. I will be successful. I'll find a way. If I can't find a way, I make the way.”
You've got to have that belief in yourself, and that's something you just got to decide to have. You've got to cut off that weak limiting factor, that fear, because that's not really you. That's not who you are. That's just a part of yourself that wants to survive and be safe and protect yourself. You're capable of so much more, and you have incredible potential, you've just got to believe in that potential and act on it. That's it.
Create a practice. Create a ritual. Do all of the things you've got to do to invest in yourself, to help get that confidence and belief, but you've got to be developing that and work harder on yourself than on anything else. Work harder on yourself than on your business, on your job, on your goal, whatever it is. Develop that confidence and certainty as you're pursuing your goals, because, at the end of the day, that's what's going to make the difference between success and failure, is that confidence, that belief that you have in yourself. Build that every single day. Thanks for watching.