Are your friends holding you back from your success?
One of the most important decisions you'll ever make in your life is who you surround yourself with.
Who you spend time with is who you become.
If you're surrounding yourself with people that are lazy, unhappy, broke, overweight, with poor relationships – then guess what? You'll begin to lower your standards and attract the same things in your life.
On the other hand, if you're surrounding yourself with people that are motivated, hard working, happy, successful, healthy, fit, with remarkable relationships – you'll be forced to raise your game and attract that in your life.
In this video blog, I answer someone's question about their friends and family holding them back from success.
Watch the video below:
Your Empowering Ecosystem
Back in 2012 I did a video blog on “Your Empowering Ecosystem“. Warning, it's an old one – but the advice still holds true. Your Empowering Ecosystem is the peers you surround yourself with. On the path of success, you'll have many peers that may hold you back. It's not their faults – they just want different things for their lives and may have totally different standards than you.
Your friends may not “get it” when you tell them you have to work on Friday and Saturday night. They might not understand why you're working so hard, putting in so many hours, and limiting your time with them. The truth is, SACRIFICE is something that success requires.
Part of getting what you want is knowing what you have to give up in order to get it.
I've had many nights and weekends where I neglected my friends. I had many invites for parties and to go out and have fun, but I had to decline. I put my success and financial freedom as a much higher priority. I was driven towards turning my dreams into reality and wouldn't let anything get in my way.
In many cases, I did not tell a lot of close people in my life what I was up to. I knew my friends and family would not understand that I was trying to build an online business. An online business is a foreign idea to many in society. Most of society operates from the mindset of “Go to school, get a job.”
I didn't want to face any criticism or friction amongst my friends and family, so I chose not to tell them. I just worked away, in private. Day after day, night after night. It wasn't until I had reached a certain point of success that I started to reveal to the world what I was up to. I had proof that what I was doing was WORKING. Nobody could dispute that or criticize me then.
As a result of massive action and hard work, I've been able to create my “dream life”. Many people wish they could have a lifestyle of financial freedom, living in a luxury penthouse, driving a sports car and traveling the world. HOWEVER… most people are NOT willing to make the sacrifices.
I will say this: it's all been worth it. People ask me, “Do your friends change when you become more successful?” The answer is yes and no. I still have many friends that have 9-5 jobs and I'm very close with them. However, we all share the same passions for self-development, health, fitness, and other areas.
However, I have unfortunately stopped communicating with certain friends. These are the friends that I find myself not having much in common with anymore. They've maybe just not grown in the ways I have or I have a difficult time relating to them.
Many of my new friends now are successful entrepreneurs. They are people like me. They're driven, motivated, internet entrepreneurs that share the same interests as myself. In many ways, the more you grow, you attract higher quality people in your life. I've always believed the saying: “You attract what you are.”
The same goes for relationships. The more I grew as a single man, the more high quality women I was able to attract into my life. That's often the best advice I give single people: Focus on growing and becoming more, you'll attract the person of your dreams soon enough.
So… it may be time to re-assess certain friends in your life. Are the people in your life supporting you? Are they empowering you? Are they successful and who you want to be? If not, perhaps it's time to be more selective about who you're surrounding yourself with.