Can we define ourselves?
These were both great questions that I received recently from one of the members of my mastermind coaching program and I thought it'd be worthwhile to create a video blog on.
The answer is YES.
You are in 100% control of who you are. YOU define who you want to be, no one else. And you can make that decision right now.
Watch the video below to hear about my story about how I changed myself.
(Click here to watch on YouTube)
You Have to BELIEVE That You Can Change
In order to change yourself, you first need to BELIEVE that you can change. Without belief, you won't take any action or put any effort forward into making a change. In my case, when I discovered the self-help industry when I was 17 years old, it gave me the belief and possibility of changing myself.
Before that moment, I never thought I could change. I thought I was just born a certain way and that “this is who I was.” When I saw other people have things that I wanted, I didn't believe I could have it. I just thought they had something that I didn't have or couldn't have.
As a result, I was a victim of my upbringing. I was shy, introverted, depressed, a bad student, and didn't have many friends. I was addicted to video games, TV, or anything that could help me “escape” reality.
It wasn't until I got clear on who I wanted to be and made the DECISION to change myself and become that, that my life started to transform. The DECISIONS that we make shape our destiny. When I was 17, I made some new decisions.
I decided that I was going to be confident. I decided that I was intelligent. I decided that I was happy. I decided that I would create the life that I was destined to have. And I decided that I would NEVER AGAIN settle for less than I can be, do, have, create, or give.
My entire life changed in a moment. Ever since, I've constantly been cultivating my identity and expanding who I am. I'm always evolving, growing and focusing on becoming better. We all have this ability – I'm not a special snow flake. It all comes down to CHOICE. It's about defining who you want to be, what you will stand for, and living by it every day.
Don't let the outside world or external forces define yourself. Stop letting other peoples beliefs about you define you. Don't give them that control over you and your life.
It's only when you don't know who you are and don't have strong convictions about yourself, that you will easily be influenced by the opinions of others. You want your identity to be like a ROCK. It's immovable, something that others can't affect in any way. It's by creating this new identity and change, that the results you want in your life will come to fruition.