Couple’s Q&A with Stefan & Tatiana James (Getting To Know Us)

Tatiana and I are back with another couple's Q&A!

This is your chance to get to know us on a more personal level. If you have yet to watch our first couple's Q&A, check it out.

We talk about our guilty pleasures, what we are most afraid of, and the one thing that we cannot live without, to name a few things.

Inside this Q&A, we pull back the curtain and get even more personal.

Recently we asked our Instagram followers to submit their questions. We received so many that we had to film two videos so that we could answer all of them.

Ready to get up-close and personal with us? Let's dive in!

Watch the video below:

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Do you want to hear more of our responses to your Q&A questions? CLICK HERE to watch Part 2 on Tatiana's YouTube channel!

As content creators, Tatiana and I love to inspire you.

We share a lot of advice on our social media platforms. However, it's not often that you get to know us on a personal level. Tatiana and I really enjoy doing Q&As together because it gives us an opportunity to show you another side of our personality and our lives. Let's dive into your questions!

Where do you want to settle down one day and why?

Stefan: We want to move to the U.S. The original plan was to move to California. Both of us love the weather and the beach life there. However, more recently we've been thinking about moving to Scottsdale, Arizona instead.

We would like to be close to Vancouver, Canada because we plan on spending summer times here. Vancouver is one of the best cities in the world in the summer months. Right now we are in the process of immigrating to the U.S.

Unfortunately, it's difficult to do so. The U.S. embassy has been closed due to COVID-19. There are huge delays. Eventually, we would like to buy properties in Vancouver, Arizona, and Hawaii. Tatiana and I like to avoid rain and cold weather at all costs which is why we've chosen those destinations.

What is your least favorite thing about each other? 

Tatiana: Stefan loves efficiency. If he feels like he is going to be running late, he gets grumpy and frustrated. I like to be on time, but I don't need to be early. However, our masculine and feminine energy complement one another in many ways.

I see the gift in Stefan wanting to be on time. 

Stefan: I like to plan things and be on time for everything. If we need to be somewhere at a certain time I like to anticipate how long it will take to get there. However, Tatiana takes a lot more time to get ready. When I say I'm ready, I'm ready.

However, when Tatiana says she's ready it means that she still has a few other things to do. To be honest, I need to do a better job of anticipating her level of readiness.

I love Tatiana's feminine energy. It's a gift that she brings to our relationship. I can still be efficient, without reacting or getting frustrated with her. I'm working on accepting being late sometimes and not having an attachment to being somewhere at an exact time.

How many hours did you work when you were first starting your business?

Stefan: A lot! I was 21 years old when I started my first speaking/coaching business. I was working full-time. During the evenings, I would work on my business. I had a goal that I was going to launch my business on January 1st and quit my 9-5 job.

Thus, I had a sense of urgency.

When I was 23 years old I launched my first online business. I was working 16 hours per day. One thing that I've learned about myself is that I am very comfortable being in isolation. Thus, it is easy for me to immerse myself in a task for hours on end.

The more frustrated that I got with not seeing success in my business, the more motivated I became. Once I achieved a lot of success in my business, I was working even harder than I ever was before. There were so many more opportunities that I wanted to say yes to.

Tatiana: If you want to have a successful business you have to be willing to dedicate a lot of time and energy to making it happen. In the beginning stages of my business, I was still in University and I was working part-time.

Thus, most of my hours were consumed by attending school, doing homework, or working at my job. I worked on my online business for a few hours per day. Once I quit my 9 to 5 job and dropped out of school, I started spending a lot more time growing my business.

Anywhere between 10-16 hours per day. I was hustling.

Eventually, you want your online business to get to a certain point where you don't have to invest that much time into it. Maybe that means hiring a team or putting systems in place. Otherwise, you'll always be a business operator instead of a business owner.

What is your least favorite thing about yourself that you're trying to change? 

Tatiana: I can be really hard on myself, to the point where I don't celebrate my wins enough. Also, I have some deep-rooted insecurities that emerge in my relationship now and then.

I'm very aware of them and it's something that I want to work on because it's not serving me. Our recent Ayucasha experience at the Soltara Healing Center in Costa Rica really helped me work through a lot of those insecurities.

I make progress every day. The moment that I notice my insecurities pop up from the past, I take action to question my beliefs and create new meanings.

Stefan: Sometimes I go into a selfish mode of thinking. This mindset originated when I was a kid. When I was young, I had to work for my Dad's family business. My brother and I would kick and scream every time that we had to work for him. By the time I got to high school, I became rebellious. I didn't care about the consequences. 

As an adult, I've noticed that this pattern re-emerges every now and then.

I have a dopaminergic personality, which means that I'm easily stimulated by dopamine. I can be addicted quite easily which is why I periodically reset my mind with a dopamine detox.

One of the best ways to reset your mind is to cultivate “here and now” transmitters. Lately, I've been trying to get off my computer and spend more time outside in nature. Doing so brings me back to the present moment and allows me to feel more at peace.

What has been the most powerful self-development experience of your life?

Stefan: My experience at the Biocybernat Institute was the most powerful self-development experience of my life. I did 7 days of Alpha brainwave training, 10-14 hours per day in Arizona.

I got to train my Alpha brainwaves in different parts of my brain. Simultaneously, I was able to release a lot of trauma or pain that was anchored to people in my life, experiences, or aspects of my business.

It's been two months now since Tatiana and I had this experience. The training also really helped my mental performance. Today, my thinking is more clear and I have more calmness in my day-to-day life.

Tatiana: The greatest benefit that I received from the Biocybernaut training was going through the forgiveness process. It's pretty amazing how it works. Most of us are functioning in a Beta brainwave state.

However, when you're hooked up to electrodes and you're in a high Alpa brainwave state, you're no longer subject to your perspective. Thus, you're able to raise your level of consciousness and see things from a birds-eye view.

You start seeing things for what they are, instead of how they appear to be.

Through the forgiveness process, I had to walk in someone else's shoes to understand how they experienced life. In doing so, I was able to truly have empathy for those whom I needed to forgive. It's so liberating to finally be free from the animosity that I used to feel towards specific people.

How do you keep your relationship fun and new when you both work from home?

Tatiana: We've had to be very conscious of this. We all know about the law of familiarity. If you're around someone long enough, eventually you will take him/her for granted. It's human nature.

Stefan and I have been working from home together and traveling the world for a few years now. Hence, we have been together 24/7. However, when possible we take space to do our own thing. It's important to create independence in your relationship.

I like to add variety to our relationship, whether it's date night or changing up my look. Stefan loves it when I have a new hairstyle or buy a new outfit. He is great at planning exciting things that we can do together, whether it's a great dinner spot or an outdoor activity.

Stefan: Back in the day, I was so addicted to dopamine that I always had to do something new. I was never satisfied with doing nothing. Even on dates, we used to always have to do something different. That's the dopamine addiction.

I was always wanting more.

Today, I'm trying to find ways to experience pleasure, fun, and variety. I'm focusing on experimenting with doing the same things with Tatiana, whether it's a walk by the beach or watching the sunset. Every day is a new day.

Even if we do the same things, we can still have a different experience every time. Over the last year, I've done a lot of work to reset my brain. As a result, the way that I think about things has changed.

A successful relationship is one where couples make time for intimacy. This doesn't have to be sexual in mature. Rather, it means connecting and communicating with your partner on a deeper level.

When you've been with someone for a long time, it's important that you keep reintroducing yourself to your partner, in mind, body, and spirit. Doing so will allow your relationship to thrive because you'll be constantly growing and evolving, together and alone.

That concludes Part 1 of our couple's Q&A!

Thank you for asking us such great questions. We hope that you've enjoyed our answers and have liked getting to know us on a more personal level.

If you have the desire to create financial freedom through building an eCommerce business on Amazon & Shopify, subscribe to Tatiana's YouTube channel and follow her on Instagram. Her content will blow you away and will surely inspire you.

Until next time, stay safe and God bless!

Do you want to hear more of our responses to your Q&A questions? CLICK HERE to watch Part 2 on Tatiana's YouTube channel!