When you know how to be confident, you become an unstoppable force for success.
The beliefs that you hold about yourself shape your life. If those beliefs are disempowering, you will be ruled by fear and doubt.
Keep in mind that there will be moments in your life where your confidence will ebb and flow. This is completely normal. However, if you make it a habit to flex your self-esteem muscle, there is nothing that you won't be able to achieve.
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Confidence isn't something that you are born with.
Rather, it is a trait that is developed through practice. More importantly, you can build your confidence at any age. New research into neural plasticity reveals that we can literally rewire our brains in ways that affect our thoughts and behavior at any age. The most successful people in this world have unshakeable confidence because they spent years of their lives building it. I know this to be true because the person that I am today is drastically different from who I used to be.
If you are lacking in confidence, I totally understand how you feel. However, you need to understand that the only thing that is holding you back from being a confident person is the beliefs that you hold about yourself. When I was younger, I was an extremely shy and anxious kid. It's fair to say that confidence wasn't a part of my vocabulary. Despite this reality, I still had a burning desire to succeed in life. The problem was that I didn't believe that I could succeed.
I knew that if I didn't develop confidence, I wouldn't get far. When I was 17 years old, I developed an empowering morning ritual. It changed my life forever. Ever since then, I have committed to engaging in healthy habits on a daily basis that help to boost my confidence levels. Doing so has served my life tremendously. I continue to practice my morning ritual to this day.
How would your life be different if you had more confidence? If you want to create your own empowering morning ritual, I encourage you to join my Morning Ritual Mastery program. In my eyes, confidence is a precursor for success. You can't take action in life without mastering this skill.
Here are some examples of why this is true.
- Are you attracted to someone? If so, you will eventually have to approach him or her and spark a conversation.
- Do you have a desire to make more money at work? If so, you have to be willing to ask for a raise.
- Are you committed to building your brand? If so, you have to be willing to create content and put yourself out there.
- Do you dream of being a public speaker? If so, you have to get over the fear of speaking in front of people.
A study at Carnegie Mellon University shows that people are more likely to “buy advice” from a more confident seller. The crazy part is that it didn’t even matter if that seller had been wrong in the past. I think you get my drift. When you are confident, the world becomes your oyster.
You may know that confidence is good for you. However, the question still remains, “How do you develop confidence if you have nothing to be confident about?” In order to counteract this disempowering mindset, you need to condition your mindset with positive and uplifting thoughts. You may not realize it yet, but you are 100% in control of your confidence. More importantly, you can access this empowering state at any given moment of the day.
I want to share with you a daily confident ritual that I practice.
It will give you a reference from which you can awaken your inner power. This ritual has directly and dramatically impacted my confidence in every area of my life. Let's try this exercise together. If you are sitting and reading this, I encourage you to please stand up.
Shake out your body, take a big deep breath in and exhale. I want you to stand in a way that you would if you already possessed unstoppable confidence. Remember a time when you were confident, or act as if you are confident in this moment. Change your physiology by putting your shoulders up and back, with your head held high. Notice how that makes you feel.
While standing, begin to pay attention to what you do with your arms. Are they crossed or open? Notice how you feel when your chest is puffed out. Pay attention to your breath. Is it shallow or deep? Think about how you would move throughout space and what gestures you would emulate. Would you be smiling and nodding, or mimicking other people's gestures?
When it comes to your facial expressions, what emotions would you express? Put that expression on your face right now. Maybe it's a big smile. Feel into that. Try taking up more space with your body. How would you communicate with people if you were confident? Would you have power in your voice and project it louder? Don't be afraid to take up space and own the room. Think about the language that you would use, like “YES! I can accomplish whatever it is that I want in this world” or “I am amazing!” or “I am powerful beyond measure!”
Recite positive affirmations like these out loud to yourself right now.
Now I want you to imagine what you would look like if you were confident. Don't be afraid to use your imagination and be bold. As Albert Einstein once said, “Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited, whereas imagination embraces the entire world, stimulating progress, giving birth to evolution.”
Make a big and bright picture of yourself taking action in life, and see how other people respond to you. Now I want you to bring that picture close to you. Feel that confident energy flow throughout your entire body. Imagine that it is vibrating every single cell of your being. When you do this, make sure that you are breathing deeply and standing strong. Exaggerate these poses and condition them over and over again.
Research by social psychologist, Amy Cuddy reveals that engaging in two minutes of power poses can make you feel and appear more confident. In these poses, your body sends a signal to your brain that you are feeling confident. In turn, the brain produces more testosterone and lowers your cortisol levels. This research proves that practicing confident body language can dramatically boost your self-esteem.
Whatever level you are currently at, now I want you to take it to a level 10. Put on music, dance, or do a fist pump. Whatever it takes! As you feel into this moment, I'm going to help you create an anchor that will allow you to access this emotional state any time you want.
Right now, I want you to clench your right fist and say, “YES!”
Repeat it louder and stronger, over and over again, to the point where you feel all-powerful. Notice what is happening in your body on a physiological level when you do this. The purpose of engaging in this exercise is to associate that “YES” gesture to the act of being confident. Make this your frame of reference for what confidence looks and feels like. When you do the work to change your physiology, you also change your emotional state.
Engaging in this daily confidence ritual has the power to change your entire life. I'm living proof that this works. I never leave my house or create content until I feel like I'm at a level 10 on the confidence scale. I first learned about this exercise from Tony Robbins. He teaches this process, which he refers to as “the emotional triad” at his seminar, Unleash The Power Within.
Tony originally learned about this concept from neurolinguistic programming (NLP), which is a powerful technology for changing one's emotional state. NLP believes that, in order to master your emotions, you first need to master three forces – your physiology, your focus, and your language.
The first component of the triad is physiology. Changing your physiology or your physical body is the fastest way to change how you feel. Emotion is created by motion. Challenge yourself all throughout the day to move with confidence. Put your shoulders back, breathe deeply, and stand tall. At first, it may feel uncomfortable but that's OK. Changing your habits takes time. Just keep practicing and whatever you do, don't give up.
The second component of the triad is focus.
Whatever you focus on, you feel. Always ask yourself, “What would I focus on if I was confident?” Make that image bigger and brighter. When you consciously set your focus on the positive, you condition your mental state to think and act accordingly.
The last component of the triad is language. Certain words produce certain emotions. If you are always saying to yourself, “I can't” or “I'm not good enough”, those phrases will automatically put you into a disempowering state.
How you use language determines what emotions you feel. This is why it's so important to condition your language. Talk to yourself in the same way that you would talk to your best friend. In the words of Tony himself, “Take control of your consistent emotions and begin to consciously and deliberately reshape your daily experience of life.”
When you know how to be confident, you give yourself permission to thrive.
Unstoppable confidence is yours for the taking. Make it a habit to condition your confidence every single day. Over time, this empowering state of mind will become a part of who you are. As someone once said, “Self-confidence is a superpower. Once you start to believe in yourself, magic starts happening.”
Are you ready to live more confidently? You are amazing. Don't ever forget it.
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