How To Get A Mentor [When You Can’t Afford One]

Have you been trying to figure out how to get a mentor, but keep coming up short?

If you are reading this article, I'm assuming that you are committed to learning how to get a mentor which is great!

I wouldn't have achieved the success that I have today had it not been for the wisdom and knowledge that I learned from my mentors.

Having someone in your corner who is prepared to give you the support that you need to achieve your goals is invaluable. In the words of Oprah Winfrey, “A mentor is someone who allows you to see the hope inside yourself.”

Are you ready to attract a high-level mentor into your life?

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My mentors have changed my life.

Mentorship has shaped me into who I am today. The knowledge and wisdom that I have obtained from my mentors have helped me create the massive success that I have right now in my life. Through the act of storytelling, I am going to teach you how to get a mentor into your life. In my personal experience working with people, I have found that telling stories is one of the most powerful ways through which I am able to influence, teach and inspire people.

This is supported by research that shows that storytelling helps with learning because stories are easy to remember. Organizational psychologist, Peg Neuhauser found that learning which stems from a well-told story is remembered more accurately, and for far longer, than learning derived from facts and figures. The best way to learn is when you don't even know that you're consciously aware that you are learning.

When I was 18 years I didn't know anybody in my life that was successful – my friends, family, peers or co-workers were not successful. Honestly, they were living average lives. Deep down, I knew that I wanted more from my life. I had a desire to become confident, attract an amazing woman into my life, and create financial freedom and abundance. However, I knew that the people in my life were holding me back.

Your environment is always influencing you. Proximity is power. You are the average of the five people that you spend the most time with. By surrounding yourself with people who are more successful than you, it motivates you to raise your standards and level up your life. One of my favorite quotes is – “If you're the smartest person in the room, you're in the wrong room.”

I purposefully put myself in environments with people who are more successful than I am.

As a result, I have been able to learn and grow at a much faster pace. It doesn't necessarily feel good. It definitely requires that you check your ego at the door. However, the only way to truly raise your game is by stepping outside of your comfort zone and facing your fears. When I was 17 years old, I was shy, depressed and had low self-esteem. When I was in high school, I got bullied a lot. I was a video game nerd who did anything in order to isolate myself from the world.  I started reading books and engaging with people on message boards.

More than anything, I wanted to develop my self-confidence and attract a woman into my life. I started consuming a lot of knowledge online about how to do so. However, I was becoming a keyboard jockey, meaning that I knew all of the information about how to change my life, but I wasn't applying that knowledge. In effect, I was at level 1 of mastery, which is knowing. You can know what to do, but not do what you know.

When I was 18 years old, I knew that I had to find a mentor, a Mastermind Group, and coaches who could help me take action. If I continued to sit in front of a computer consuming knowledge my life was never going to change.

At the time, I was living in Vancouver, B.C., Canada.

I remember finding a message board comprised of a small community of men who were going out every weekend to meet and attract women. I had so much anxiety just being around these people because I was extremely anti-social. Just getting out of the house was a big deal for me. These men were all further ahead then myself in terms of their confidence. They were a lot older than me and had experience meeting women. That day changed my life. Those men inspired me to become a new version of myself. They became my mentors. Automatically, my belief system shifted about what was possible. The level of maturity that I gained from these experiences was invaluable. If they could have confidence, I knew that I could as well.

When I was 18 years old, I met a man named Zan Perrion. He was a well-known person in the seduction community and was considered to be a dating guru. His philosophy and mindset towards relationships were amazing. He was putting on his very first seminar in Vancouver. He was someone that I looked up to so I knew that I had to find a way to attend. The problem was that the seminar was $500. At the time, I was working at a car dealership as a lot boy. I was only getting paid $10 per hour, but I was determined to do whatever it took to come up with the money. That's exactly what I did. At the seminar, I was the most committed person in that room because I valued the information that he was sharing so much.

Every word that Zan said, I absorbed and wrote down as if it were the Gospel.

I showed Zan all of the notes that I took. He was so impressed by how I captured his words. At that moment, Zan saw potential in me, so much so that he asked me to send him my notes. I had added massive value to him. That is what started our mentoring relationship. I learned so much from him, and still do to this day.

Last year I interviewed Zan on my YouTube channel and at one point, he even asked me to be a coach for his business. This story is a testament to the power of putting yourself in environments where there is a chance that you could meet and attract a mentor into your life. Mentors want to help people that are committed to elevating their lives. They don't want to work with people who are lazy dabblers.

By the time that I was 21 years old, I made such a transformation in every area of my life. This is when I started my first business called, Lifestyle Transformations. We were providing coaching and seminars for men to help them develop their social skills and confidence. That was the first time that I started to develop a high-income skill. I realized that I needed to surround myself with more mentors.

I decided to put on an event called “The Ultimate Transformation Super Conference.” My idea behind it was that I was going to use the event to attract high-level mentors in my life by adding value to them. When I was planning the event, I decided to reach out to each of my mentors.

One of these people was Wade Lightheart, who is a 3-time vegan bodybuilding champion.

I looked up to Wade so much because I had the desire to change my physique during that stage of my life. Because of this, I asked him if he would come to speak at my event. I told him that I would fill up the room with 100 people and that he would have the opportunity to meet a lot of other incredible speakers as well. He agreed to speak at my event, for free.

I also reached out to Darren Jacklin, who is an inspirational speaker and corporate trainer. My focus was on adding value to these men by providing a platform from which they could grow their influence. By doing so, I was aligning with their goals and building a relationship with each of them.

Another person that I reached out to was Scott Humphrey who is Tony Robbins' brother-in-law. He also spoke at the event. I knew that if I had these types of names, I could sell each ticket and that's exactly what I did.

We had 100 people show up for the event and it was a massive success. From that moment onwards, each of those men would become my mentors. After the event, I went for dinner with Darren Jacklin and he told me that I was going to be a millionaire by the time I was 30 years old because I was so committed at such an early age. When he said that, it meant the world to me. I had never had anybody believe in me as he did. Sure enough, I became a millionaire at 28 years old. He helped me achieve that goal.

There was a time in my life when I was living in San Diego for a few months.

I had made a vision board for my life. I knew that I wanted to end up in California, so I decided to go for it. At the time, I was living in hostels. Funny enough, Darren Jacklin had invited me to go to a big event in Anaheim. Some of the top self-development speakers in the industry were going to be there. I knew that I had to find a way to get there, so I took the train from San Diego to Anaheim. I shared a room with a bunch of friends so that we could save money. Again, I was making it my mission to get into close proximity with successful people.

When I was at the event, I met some of my future mentors, like Mark Victor Hansen, Frank McGuire, Brob Proctor, and John Assaraf. This was at a time in my life when I was trying to build my business. At the event, I met Tony Robbins' son. As many of you know, Tony has made a huge impact on my life.

I approached Jairek Robbins. I asked him, “How can I add value to your life?” When a lot of people approach mentors, their focus is on taking from them. If you do this, you end up repelling people. The best way to create a long-term relationship with anyone is by serving them. By adding value to peoples' lives, they will want to reciprocate at some point. Jairek asked me what I do and I told him that I was looking to learn online marketing. He said, “Funny enough. I'm speaking at a marketing event next month in Los Angeles.” He asked me if I wanted to attend as his guest. I was blown away by his generosity.

I took a train to the event. That experience ended up changing my life even more.

While I was there, I met Eli Wilde, who is the top salesperson for Tony Robbins' company. Over time, we became friends and to this day we are still close.

I asked Jairek to be my business coach. However, the minimum coaching package that he offered was $500 per month. I was so committed to be mentored by him that I went back to Vancouver and lived on my friend's couch for one year. It's fair to say that I made a lot of sacrifices so that I could save money and get that mentored by Jairek. Because of that decision, I ended up making a lot of shifts in my life.

This is how to get a mentor, even when you can't afford one.

Nobody achieves success on their own. If you put in the work and find mentors the right way, there is no limit to what you can achieve in life. Think about who you want to have as a mentor and why. From there, make it your priority to add massive value to the people who have already achieved what it is that you want in life. In the words of Tim Sanders, “Your network is your net worth.”

Are you ready to find a mentor and take your life to the next level?

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