7 Keys You MUST Know For A Successful Relationship

There are 7 keys that you MUST know if you want to have a successful relationship.

Happy Valentines Day, everyone! Today is a day to celebrate love. To love and be loved is a beautiful thing.

Tatiana and I want to share with you the principles that have helped us build and maintain the ultimate relationship.

Whether you're looking to create more intimacy in your current relationship, or you're single and are ready to attract a partner into your life, these principles will be of value to you.

If you have the desire to build a successful relationship and a lifetime of love, keep reading…

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Do you want to know the last 3 keys to a successful relationship? CLICK HERE to watch Part 2 on Tatiana's YouTube channel!

A successful relationship doesn't happen overnight.

All relationships go through ups and downs. It's natural to not think of relationships as something that you need to develop skills for, but you do. It takes patience, work, and commitment to building a strong relationship that will stand the test of time.

A lot of couples fall into the trap of getting too comfortable with one another, to the point that they get complacent. In short, they take their partner for granted and stop making their relationship a priority.

Staying healthy takes work. Raising kids takes work. Building a business takes work. Why shouldn't having a great relationship take work too? Year after year, Tatiana and I have made it a priority to give our relationship the love and care that it deserves. As a result, we've been able to continually grow, both as individuals and as a couple.

Here are some tips that will help you build a successful relationship, whether you're currently in a relationship or you're single.

Tip #1 – Know Your Attachment Style 

Do you know what your attachment style is, and what your partner's style is? If you haven't already, we encourage you to read the book Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find – and Keep – Love. Your attachment style will help you understand and explain your behavior in an intimate relationship.

Attachment theory suggests that there are three main types of attachment. Attachment styles first develop in childhood. The nature of our attachment to one or both of our parents influences the nature of our attachment to our romantic partners in adulthood.

1. Secure Attachment Style

A person who has a secure attachment style has an advantage in relationships. They are secure within themselves. Thus, they are very independent and don't feel like they need their partner to feel a sense of wholeness. They also tend to be able to effectively communicate their emotions to their partner openly and honestly.

2. Anxious Attachment Style

A person who has an anxious attachment style is more insecure and needy in a relationship. Therefore, they tend to require constant reassurance from their partner that they are loved and wanted. Their struggles can be rooted in the fear of being rejected or abandoned by their partner. Thus, the feeling of being alone or single makes them very uncomfortable.

3. Avoidant Attachment Style

A person who has an avoidant attachment style has a harder time being in relationships. They love their independence and freedom. Being in a relationship can feel like they've lost their sense of self. Thus, they may have a lot of partners but never be able to settle down with one person. Moreover, they may struggle to experience deep intimacy because they prefer to love at a distance, for fear that they will be too suffocated.

Which attachment style do you gravitate towards?

The great news is that an attachment style can change over time. If you have an anxious or avoidant attachment style, strive to move your attachment style towards one that is more secure. When both partners are secure, a relationship flourishes.

Tip #2 – Create A Compelling Relationship Vision 

Oftentimes, people enter into relationships with their own values, dreams, and desires. However, they don't communicate those truths with their partner. If your partner doesn't share the same vision as you, you're bound to experience challenges down the road.

This is why Tatiana and I believe in creating a relationship vision. Think of a relationship vision as a roadmap for what you want your relationship journey to look like. A shared vision allows you and your partner to focus your energy on creating a life together.

If you're in a relationship, I recommend that you and your partner take some time separately to reflect upon what your vision is for the relationship. What do you want from your relationship? How do you want to show up in your relationship? What kind of partner do you want to have?

Once you've gone through this process, express to your partner what came up for you, and build a shared vision together. If you're single, get clarity on what your needs and wants are. What are your “musts” in a partner? Equally, make sure that you're showing up for yourself and being the kind of partner that you want to be.

Tip #3 – Understand Love Languages

A love language reflects how you feel and interpret love. Everyone has a love language. In his book, The Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman states that there are five love languages, which include the following:

1. Gifts – giving flowers, a love note, or a box of chocolates.

2. Acts of service – doing things for your partner, like emptying the dishwasher, making dinner, or giving a massage.

3. Words of affirmation – saying loving and encouraging things to your partner.

4. Physical touch – touching your partner, in the form of hand-holding, intimacy, or cuddling.

5. Quality time – spending quality time with your partner.

What is your primary love language? What is your partner's love language is? Keep in mind that we all give and receive love in our own ways. A relationship is not a place that you go to get. Rather, it's a place that you go to give.

Be willing to tell your partner what makes you feel loved, and be willing to give your partner the love that they need. This is how you will be able to create more love and intimacy in your relationship.

In the words of Tony Robbins – “Trade your expectation for appreciation.” When you and your partner appreciate, love, and accept every aspect of one another, you can transcend your love to another level.

Tip #4 – Become Who You Want To Attract

Once you get clarity on what you want in a partner and a relationship, you have to do the inner work to attract that which you want. For example, if you want to create more love and passion in your relationship, you have to become more loving and passionate.

If something is important to you, but you fail to embody it yourself, naturally you will hope that it is given to you by someone else. For those of you who are single, ask yourself – are you the kind of person with whom your ideal partner would fall in love with?

If your answer is no, then commit to doing the work to become that person before you start dating. Similarly, if you're in a relationship, ask yourself if you're still growing with your partner, or if you've become too complacent in the relationship.

When you strive to become the best version of yourself, you will attract someone who is also the best version of themselves. That is a recipe for healthy love.

These are 4 keys for building a successful relationship, but there are more!

I encourage you to head on over to Tatiana's YouTube channel to learn about the last 3 keys. Valentine's Day is about love in all its forms.

Today, and every day thereafter, give love to people whom you care about, whether that's a partner, a friend, or a pet! More importantly, give love for yourself. At the end of the day, this is the most important relationship that you will ever have.

Do you want to know the last 3 keys to a successful relationship? CLICK HERE to watch Part 2 on Tatiana's YouTube channel!