How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

How do you stop comparing yourself to others?

This is a question that one of the members in my Life Mastery Accelerator program recently asked me.

The problem is that we live in a digital world where it's become the norm to become an observer of other peoples' lives.

A study found that Facebook use was associated with lower self-esteem, poorer mental health, and greater body shame. In fact, those that quit Facebook instantly experienced a boost in life satisfaction and positivity.

If you feel like your life isn't measuring up to your peers, keep reading! I'm going to show how to stop comparing yourself to others.

Watch the video below:

(Click here to watch on YouTube)

[smart_track_player url=”http://www.buzzsprout.com/9299/1436200-plm-699-how-to-stop-comparing-yourself-to-others.mp3″ background=”default” ]

Want me to know how to master every area of your life? CLICK HERE to join my Life Mastery Accelerator program!

This description may contain affiliate links. If you purchase a product through one of them, I will receive a commission (at no additional cost to you). I only ever endorse products that I have personally used and benefitted from personally. Thank you for your support!

Comparing yourself to others is normal.

At some point in your life, you will compare yourself to other people. When it feels like you are farther behind others, it's easy to compare. However, you are wasting time if all you are doing is focusing on other people's lives at the expense of your own.

The trick is learning how to use comparison as a tool for growth and motivation. Comparing yourself to people whom you admire and aspire to become is a good thing.

In their book, Friend and Foe: When To Cooperate, When To Compete, and How To Succeed at Both, Adam Galinsky and Maurice Schweitzer suggest that social comparison is a natural human tendency. Rather than being hardwired to compete or cooperate, we have evolved to do both. The goal is to learn how to strike the right balance between these two forces so that you can get more of whatever it is that you want in life.

If you want to stop comparing yourself to others, the first thing you need to do is figure out the root cause of this behavior. Oftentimes, this comes from an over-valuing of the human need for significance. If the only way that you evaluate your worth is by way of social comparison, you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of disappointment.

There will always be someone that is farther ahead than you. In turn, this will cause you to feel like you are falling behind. With this mindset, you won't be able to move forward with life. You will always feel stuck in one place. I think we can all agree that this doesn't feel good.

The problem is that we live in a society that feeds off of our need for significance.

We are sold, and buy into the idea, that we aren't enough. In effect, we are programmed to be dissatisfied with who we are. Research has found that comparing breeds feelings of envy, low-self confidence, and depression.

The second best way to stop comparing yourself to others is to start giving more weight to other human needs. Focus on needs that have a bigger positive impact than negative. For example, there is no downside to focusing on the need for growth, contribution or love. In fact, by being a giver, people will make you significant without having to ask for it.

Lastly, you could always do a digital detox. I would argue that this is only a bandaid solution to a bigger problem. However, it will give you the space to start focusing on your own life instead of obsessing about the lives of others.

Are you ready to stop comparing yourself to others?

When you stop comparing yourself to others, you start focusing on what is working well in your life. In the words of Lecrae, “Stop comparing yourself to others. You have your own race to run. Finish well.” You are more than enough and you are doing the best that you can with what you have. Don't forget it.

Want me to know how to master every area of your life? CLICK HERE to join my Life Mastery Accelerator program!