My girlfriend Tatiana and I want to talk about how to create an amazing relationship that lasts.
I have been blessed to have achieved a high level of success in my life thus far.
I’ve built a thriving business, I’ve traveled the world, and I’ve met amazing people that have inspired me to grow, both personally and professionally.
However, none of those experiences compare to the joy that I feel being with the woman that I love.
My relationship trumps everything else in my life.
If you want to create an amazing relationship that lasts, you have to invest time and energy into it.
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Tatiana and I have built a strong relationship, but we are both committed to working at it every day so that we are growing in the same direction.
We are a team. We understand and respect each other’s needs and values, and make each other a priority.
Yes, great relationships take work. Staying in great shape takes work, and building an online business takes work, so why shouldn’t a relationship take work as well?
I cannot stress enough how important it is to be aligned with your partner, in terms of your goals, visions, and values.
From the beginning, Tatiana and I made sure that our values were in alignment.
If we didn’t agree on something, we talked about it and came to a mutual agreement.
The best way to maintain a lasting, long-term relationship with someone is to create a shared vision.
At the beginning of our relationship, Tatiana and I took the time to create a vision together.
Doing so allowed us to make sure that we were moving in the same direction.
If we are ever feeling uncertain about something, we reflect back on what we wrote. Communication is key to a successful partnership.
Not only do we have a shared vision for our relationship, but we also have separate visions, for our health, our businesses, etc., and we support each other in those visions.
It’s so important to find someone that is in your corner.
Remember: This is Part 2 of our four-part series on Relationship Mastery. Click Here to check out Part 1.
You also need to make sure that your values are in alignment.
For Tatiana and I, we are both passionate about the same things, which is great, because we are constantly growing as people and as a couple.
That being said, you don’t want to be aligned on everything with your partner because that helps create some passion and excitement between the two of you.
Tatiana and I have a relationship journal, which we use on a bi-weekly basis to check-in with each other.
As part of this exercise, we go through the 6 human needs, as expressed by Tony Robbins, and list on a scale of 1-10 where our needs are being met:
- Certainty – the need for safety, security, and stability
- Variety – the need for surprise and excitement
- Significance – the need to have meaning
- Love – the need to feel connected with, intimate, and loved by another
- Growth – the need for constant spiritual, emotional, and intellectual development
- Contribution – the need to give beyond ourselves
When you are hitting anywhere between a 7-10 on each need, that is when you know that your relationship is alive and healthy.
This exercise allows us to express where our needs are being met, and where we can do better as a couple.
Love is about growing together. On a daily basis, ask yourself, “What can I do to serve my partner more?
By committing and supporting one another, Tatiana and I have learned how to create an amazing relationship that lasts.
Life is meant to spent with the person that you love.
If you have found your person, do the work to support and value their needs so that your love continues to grow and expand into the future.
If you are still looking for love, have faith that your special person is out there, waiting for you.
In the mean time, focus on being the best version of yourself. Love who you are so that you can attract the love that you desire.
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Are you ready to learn why it's important to love yourself just as much as you love your partner? CLICK HERE to read the article that I wrote on Medium!