A Letter That Changed My Life…


I want to share with you a letter that changed my life.  I wrote this letter to myself 7 years ago. It is a letter of truth and vulnerability. It is a letter that challenged me to be a better version of myself. This letter stirred up a lot of emotions because I was calling myself out on how I was choosing to live my life. As a result, it caused a lot of internal pain.

Sometimes in life you have to have a breakdown in order to have a breakthrough. I used to live my life as a dabbler – I was lazy, I lacked focused, and I procrastinated.

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I had fears and limitations that held me back from achieving my full potential. I knew that the life I desired was possible, but I wasn’t fully committed to making it my reality. I knew that I had to make a change, but I didn’t know how.

And then, in 2010, I joined the 100 day challenge. I didn’t have the money to do it, but I was resourceful and I found a way to make it happen. I didn’t know it at the time, but this challenge would change my life forever.

I wrote a letter on day 11 of the 100 day challenge. I was living on my friend’s couch at the time. I was at my lowest – broke and in debt. Sure, I had goals and dreams to be financially free, but I wasn’t doing what was necessary, consistently, in order to make them a reality.

In short, I wasn’t committed to mastery. On January 22, 2010, I wrote a letter to my future self, about my goals, dreams, and aspirations. I want to share this letter with you.

Dear Stefan,

You probably already know what this letter is about. You've seen it coming, I know you have. 

It's about us, Stefan. It's over. I'm leaving you. I've hung on as long as I could, you've got to give me credit for that – I mean, the way you swept me off my feet and spoke lovingly about our future together. I waited so long for your embrace, your attention and for your love. Why have you neglected me, Stefan? Why have you made so many excuses? 

Your inaction and addiction to procrastination is absolutely tearing me apart. I simply must move on. For years, I would get so excited about the financial freedom you were going to create, the places we were going to visit, and the home on the water where we could watch the sunset every night. My heart would pitter-patter everytime you talked about to meet other people only to be let down once again, because you were afraid. Stefan, what are you afraid of? It's only me! I'm your hopes, your dreams, your goals. I wanted you as much as you wanted me. But you have left me no choice, Stefan, I simply must move on. 

Please do not attempt to talk your way out of this. The years of indecision and lack of discipline can tell me everything that I need to know. If you really, and I mean if you REALLY wanted me you would have found a way for us to be together. I am so tired of having my hopes soar so high just to see them dashed. I simply must move on. 

Time is watching by without us Stefan, and my greatest fear is suddenly becoming visible on the horizon. I'm so afraid that we have come to the end of this 100 Day Challenge and never have the chance to really get to know one another. It absolutely breaks my heart to even be able to maintain this thought, but I simply must move on. 

Like the genie that grants three wishes, I wanted to give you your hearts desire. All I ever wanted, need, and asked for was your attention, your devotion and your willingness to work hard for me. If that was too much to ask for Stefan, then I'm sorry. But still, I simply must move on. All things of value must be earned, and I've grown tired of your excuses and lack of patience. On numerous occasions I was within your grasp – but you quit too soon. Why did you leave me when you were so close?

I'll let you in on a little secret. Every day I would call out to you, I would whisper, “I am your goal, here I am, come and get me!” I'm curious Stefan, “Did you never hear me?” I repeated this question day after day, month after month, year after year. But now I've grown tired of hearing that the timing is not right, that you're tired, or that someday you'll get around to it. 

Well Stefan, it's time that I get myself around to it and find someone who is committed, focused and proactive. I simply must move on. 

On behalf of all of your hopes, dreams and desires, there is something that you should know about us Stefan. We will never fail you, nor let you down. The main reason why we have not embraced one another, Stefan, is because you have failed us by not taking action. Why?


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On this day, I decided to commit to mastery, and I never looked back. Did I make mistakes along the way to get to where I am today? Sure, but I kept going. I never gave up. We all have goals, dreams and desires that are in our grasp, waiting patiently for us to pursue them.

Be honest with yourself. You may have to admit that you have failed, which can be a blow to your ego. Have the breakdown to get to the truth and make a change. It will set you free. This was a letter that changed my life forever.

Hopefully this letter inspires you to recognize the limitations in your life that have been holding you back.  Maybe you need to write a letter to yourself. Fred Devito said it best – “If it doesn't challenge you, it doesn't change you”.

There is a sleeping giant within you. It’s time to wake up.

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A Letter That Changed My Life…
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  • Kitti

    It makes me wonder…Thank you!