If you were to ask me to share my hair loss story back in my 20’s, I would have been reluctant to do so because I felt depressed, frustrated, and embarrassed. However, today I feel empowered to share my hair loss story.
A lot of men have been asking me to do a video on this topic because they are going through the same experience that I went through, and are looking for advice with regards to how I coped with this process.
First and foremost, if you are someone who is experiencing hair loss, I want you to understand that I know exactly how you feel. As men, so much of who we are and our identity is based on how we look, and hair is a big part of that. My hair loss story was a large part of my identity for many years.
Nobody wants to lose their hair. Yes, hair loss sucks, and there’s no shame in admitting that, but once you hear my hair loss story and the solution that worked for me, you may change your perspective.
Watch the video below:
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I never saw hair loss as a possibility for me, because both my dad and grandparents have a full head of hair. However, in my early 20’s the reality set in, and I quickly started to lose my hair. I tried my best to hide my hair loss by styling it in different ways. However, over time, my hair continued to get thinner and thinner, which caused more insecurity.
For years I looked for different solutions. I went to a dermatologist and they prescribed me with the drug Rogaine, which helps with hair growth. I’ve always been very health conscious, so having to put a chemical on my head every day wasn’t in alignment with my beliefs. It helped a bit, but unfortunately it wasn’t solving the root cause of the problem.
I then went back to the doctor and was prescribed Propecia, which is another drug that prevents hair loss. I took that drug for 6 months to one year. It helped, but again, it wasn’t a magical solution. I didn’t want to take a pill for the rest of my life.
Not only that, but I found a community of people online that had experienced negative effects from taking the drug, like reduced libido, suicidal thoughts, erectile dysfunction, low energy, and depression. At that moment, my mindset shifted and I made the choice to stop the drug.
During this time, I was going through a lot of spiritual growth, and I noticed how attached I was to my hair loss story. Oftentimes, we become so attached to beliefs or external things. I am reminded of a quote by Epictetus who said, “The essence of philosophy is that a man should so live that his happiness shall depend as little as possible on external things.”
What really underlies attachment is a fear of not being in control. When something is outside of our control, and it makes us feel self-conscious and insecure, it can affect every area of our lives.
I freed myself from my attachment to my hair by making the choice to shave my head. I didn’t make this decision because I was looking for a solution to my hair loss. Rather, I did it for the purpose of self-growth. I wanted to challenge myself.
If I shaved my head, I knew that I would have to confront the insecurity that I had been carrying for so many years, and create confidence, that was not situational in nature. Your confidence and self-esteem should never be so dependent on how you look. True confidence is when you are comfortable in your own skin and you embrace who you are, regardless of what you look like.
When I first shaved my head, I was shocked at how I looked. I had to adapt to a “new me”. However, I finally felt free, in the sense that I was no longer controlled by my hair loss. You need to understand that shaving your head is not uncommon. Bald men are everywhere!
It’s actually become quite a trend to shave your head and is seen as a symbol of confidence and dominance. This is supported by research that found that hairless men are leading the way of attractiveness, and appear more confident and dominant to the opposite sex.
For those of you who are struggling with hair loss, I hope my hair loss story has empowered you to find a sustainable solution that works best for you, but I encourage you to go ahead and shave your head! Shaving my head was one of the best decisions that I’ve ever made.
Today, I feel more confident as a man and I’m not dependent on hair for my happiness and self-esteem. Don’t let your hair loss rule your life. You are so much more than your hair.
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