The Illusion of Happiness

the illusion of happiness

Today I want to talk about the illusion of happiness. I believe that happiness is a universal desire. Deep down, we all want to be happy. Unfortunately, in today’s world, genuine happiness is a rare commodity. People who have bought into the illusion of happiness use things like money, relationships, friends, their body, etc., as vehicles to achieve certain ‘positive’ emotional states.

The more you ‘go after’ happiness, the more fleeting it becomes. Materialistic things won’t buy you happiness. If you are constantly chasing the idea of happiness, you will live a life of pain and disappointment. Instead of focusing on the external rewards of life, focus on your internal state.

Happiness is a choice. There are people in this world that have nothing, and still, they choose to be happy. Similarly, there are people who have all the money in the world, but they still aren’t fulfilled. Whatever the circumstances are in our lives, we always have the power to choose how we feel.

In the words of A.R. Lucas, “If there’s even a slight chance at getting something that will make you happy, risk it. Life’s too short, and happiness is too rare.” Are you ready to drop the illusion of happiness, and live from a place of joy, gratitude, and fulfillment?

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I’m not saying that there won’t be challenges that arise in life that try to shake your happiness. The question remains, “How does someone sustain a positive state during times of unhappiness and duress?” It all comes down to their mindset.

These people make happiness their top value in life. They engage in a process of self-reflection, learn how to master their emotions, and find peace within themselves, which in turn, allows them to experience inner happiness.

They know that the direction that their lives take depends solely on them and them alone. They don’t search for things or people to make them happy. In turn, they achieve and attract more into their lives. There are 24 hours in a day. You can either spend those hours being happy or sad.

For myself, I know that once I started putting happiness first, my life changed, on a physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual level. One strategy that I adopted in order to condition my state of happiness, is a morning ritual. Every day, I take the time to honour myself. I reflect and show gratitude for all of the blessings that exist in my life.

If you prioritize your happiness, I can guarantee you that it will make everything in your life easier. When you start your day feeling full, you overflow with love, happiness, and abundance, which has a contagious effect on others and the world at large.

The illusion of happiness makes people believe that if they can find happiness everything else will be okay. But there isn’t a magic pill for happiness. Rather, it is a daily practice. Have you bought into the illusion of happiness? If you are aren’t happy with your life, try shifting your mindset, and adopting an attitude of gratitude.

Abraham Lincoln once said that, “People can be as happy or unhappy as they make up their mind to be.” When you adopt a happy mindset, being happy won’t feel like work. It will just be your natural state, and that is when you will start attracting amazing things into your life.

If you aren’t living the kind of life that brings you inner joy, happiness, and fulfillment, I challenge you to start the journey towards a happy life. The first step is connecting with that place of inner happiness that resides within you. It won’t be easy, but nothing in life that is worthwhile ever comes easy.

Drop the illusion of happiness. Don’t wait for things to happen in order to be happy. Choose happiness in your life, NOW.

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Video transcript

Hey, everyone, this is Stefan from ProjectLifeMastery.com and today I want to talk to you about something that I believe that most people in society today does not value nearly enough. It’s something that I believe that we all really want deep down inside. We all crave it, we all desire it, and what that really is is to be happy. I believe that you and I, all human beings, we all really want to be happy in our lives. We want a sense of joy, fulfillment, a sense of meaning and be excited about our lives.

The challenge that I’ve observed is that most people in society today have bought into the lie and the illusion that happiness and joy and fulfillment comes from outside of ourselves. That you have to put your focus and emphasis on the external results and rewards of life instead of focusing internally, understanding and knowing that the happiness that you are looking for, that you’re craving and seeking is already within you.

That’s why I think a lot of people, they focus just on making money, right? They want to make a certain amount of money, or they want to start their business, or they want to create a certain lifestyle or freedom, or they want to buy this car, or this house, or some sort of materialistic possession. Or they’re maybe more focused on their body and achieving a certain body weight and having a six pack. Or maybe it’s attracting a man or a woman into their life and having love and a great relationship.

Don’t get me wrong, I think those are all great things. They’re all important. I’ve pursued those in my life as well. But the challenge is that when you believe that in order to be happy, you need to have this or that, something outside of yourself, instead of recognizing and understanding that you could be happy right now regardless of your outside circumstances, regardless of having that car, or having that man or woman in your life, or having your ideal body, or having a lot of money.

In fact, there are people out there in the world that have nothing. They’re broke, in debt or poor, they’re alone, people that are sick and dying, and yet they still have decided, regardless of their circumstances, to be happy and joyful and cheerful. There are people out there in the same way that have a lot of money, they’re maybe multi-millionaires or billionaires, and they have everything on the outside world, and yet they’re not happy, they’re not fulfilled.

That’s why you see celebrities and famous people actually commit suicide, and actually, they’re depressed, they’re unhappy, regardless. You see them have it all, but deep down, they haven’t learned to master their emotions and really find the happiness within themselves. I was reading the other day that there are over 2,000 billionaires in the world, and every five days in China there’s a new billionaire, every six days in the United States there’s a new billionaire. But I believe what’s rarer than a billionaire is someone that’s really happy. Someone who’s fulfilled.

Someone that loves their life. Oftentimes, that’s what I look for in human beings. People that I want to learn from, or people that I respect the most, aren’t just the people out there that just have a lot of money or they’re really fit. That’s great, but I look at, are they really happy? Are they really fulfilled? Because most people have bought into the illusion that this vehicle, they use their business, they use the money, they use their body, they use relationships or friends, or whatever it might be, as a vehicle to go after and achieve certain emotional states, right? That’s the belief system that they have programmed in their minds.

Oftentimes, most of the marketing today, most of the society, they’re marketing that to you. When you look at a magazine or you watch TV or whatever it might be, you’re being marketed to buy a product, because ultimately what you’re really after is the emotion that you believe that this product can provide for you, or that result will provide for you. It’s not true, my friends. In fact, what if instead, if I were to propose this to you: Instead of operating that way, which is believing that in order to be happy, I need to achieve or get something outside of myself to be happy, what if instead you decided that I’m going to be happy regardless.

I’m going to be happy regardless of what my outside world looks like, just because I’ve decided to and I choose to. That I’m in control, you’re in control, of our emotional states. That regardless of what’s going on, you can always look for the good, you can always appreciate the good in every situation of life. You can always have something to be grateful for, having something to be excited for and happy about. Even though it might not be ideal yet, but if instead, you operated from happiness first, to make that a higher value on your list, to prioritizing your own happiness.

What if instead, that actually helped you to attract and achieve more in your life? What if instead of achieving to be happy, you happily achieved? I believe, and what I’ve noticed in myself in my life, is that when I started to put happiness first, above all of that, and I created a powerful ritual in my life, where I decided, you know what, every day, every single morning, I’m going to spend time for myself just to be happy. To take in all the gifts of my life. Trust me, there have been times in my life when my life hasn’t looked so good.

Times in my life when man, I was really, really struggling and I had a lot to be unhappy about. But I decided regardless that if I can be happy now, and I can be happy despite the chaos, despite the adversity in my life, then I’d really have mastered life in a much higher level. I’d really have taken control of my life and that’s the most important thing. What I found, and what I want to propose to you, is that the fact that if you actually prioritize your happiness first, and you decide I’m going to be happy regardless, I can almost guarantee you that it’s going to make everything else in your life much easier.

You know that man or woman you’re trying to attract to that great relationship? Maybe you’re already in a relationship but you want to take it to another level, or maybe it’s not going so well. Well if you brought happiness to that, or if you were happy yourself, I can almost promise you that you’re going to attract someone into your life much differently as opposed to you being needy or not fully complete yourself. I can promise you that if you’re a lot happier, you’re probably going to uplift your current relationship that you might already be in.

I can promise you that if you’re a lot happier, you’re probably going to make better food choices. You’re probably going to want to go outside and exercise and take better care of yourself and your body because you’re already happy, and that’s going to result in you being able to achieve your health and fitness goal that much faster. I can almost promise you that if you’re happier, then that’s going to help you improve the amount of money that you make. It’s going to help you feel more motivated to start your business, to grow your business, to perform a lot better at your job.

I think a lot of people have got it backward. You have to de-hypnotize yourself into understanding that happiness has to be so important. It has be more important than anything. Otherwise, what’s going to happen is that you’re going to achieve the things that you set out to achieve, you’re going to achieve that car and that house and that body and that relationship and all that stuff, but here’s what’s going to happen. Here’s the scary part. Once you get it, you’re going to realize that that did not make you happy.

That regardless of all these things that you’ve worked so hard to acquire because you believed would give you that happiness, that you’re going to feel a sense of emptiness inside. Then you’re going to look to something else. You’re going to look to another goal, something else you can achieve, or might even lead you to going down a hole of drugs or something else, to escape because your life isn’t the way that you expected it to be. I’m here to tell you that I believe that the better way of going about it is to make happiness a more important priority.

Happiness is something that most people don’t value as much because it’s not as tangible. It’s not as tangible as a car or a house or a body or a girlfriend or a boyfriend or a husband or a wife. You can measure that, it’s more specific. Whereas happiness, it’s something that people can’t tangibly measure it in the same way. Happiness is different for everybody. There’s certain universal principles and patterns of happiness that without a doubt can help enhance that. I’m not saying that money and a relationship can’t amplify it, but it’s not the sole source of happiness.

In fact, you don’t even want your happiness to be dependent on something outside of yourself, because if it’s only dependent on a man or a woman or a relationship or a body or money, then what happens when that goes away is that you have all this attachment to it, but when that goes away, then your happiness will go away with it. Here’s what I want to propose to you guys is make happiness a higher priority, shift your mindset, your belief system. Decide that, you know what? I can be happy now.

I’m going to spend the first part of my day, which is the most important part of your day, the moment that you wake up, and create a ritual. Create a ritual for yourself and do what makes you happy. Whatever that might be. I know for myself, I’ve got crazy rituals that I do, but I enjoy learning each day, and I enjoy taking care of my health and my body and giving my body love. I enjoy just spending time meditating. I enjoy spending time just focusing on and thinking about what I’m grateful for. What’s great in my life and what I’m happy about so that I train myself to always look for the good, no matter what.

No matter what’s going on, there’s always good. I will find it and that will help amplify my life and remind myself how blessed I really am. Maybe it’s doing some exercise and taking good care of your body. I think that can be an act of love. But change your belief system about why you’re doing it. Start off the day happy, because when you’re full, rather than being empty each day, because a lot of people start the day empty and they’re trying to fill themselves up. What if you start off the day full? You fill yourself up in the morning with your ritual, and then now when you’re full, you’re overflowing with love in abundance and happiness and that will have a contagious effect on everyone else around you.

In fact, I think that you being happy every day is the greatest gift that you can give to other human beings on this planet. So create a ritual, or do whatever works for you. I don’t know whatever that might be for you, but take the time to prioritize that more, value that more in your life, study happiness. I know a lot of people, they want to make money, they’ll start studying that and buying books on business and marketing. Pick up a happiness books, make it a study. Pick up some books maybe on some spirituality or your emotions, and really make more emphasis and focus on that, because at the end of the day, that’s really what you want deep down inside.

Hopefully, this video could be a good reminder for some of you to really value that more, make an emphasis on it. Not just be one-dimensional in your life and just focus on one aspect, but I believe in life mastery and the foundation of that is your health, your mindset, your emotions. You really master those areas of your life, those are the ones that are going to affect everything else that much more. Hopefully, you guys enjoyed this video. If you did, give it a thumbs up. Leave a comment below.

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The Illusion of Happiness
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  • “The illusion of happiness makes people believe that if they can find happiness everything else will be okay. But there isn’t a magic pill for happiness. Rather, it is a daily practice.”

    Spot on!

    Mastering my emotions is one of the major goals I’m working on this year. It amazes me how little this aspect of fitness and well-being is addressed in the world – to know you can literally strengthen certain emotions and erode others. Incredible!

    Thanks for this post – will be sharing with many!

  • Dan Nguyen

    When our happiness depend on external sources, it becomes difficult for us to ever feel happy, even when we obtain the results we desired. This results to periods of happiness but it doesn’t last. It is important to cultivate happiness from within and practicing gratitude everyday is a method that I use that helps me shift towards a state of continuous happiness.