How To Deal With Adversity, Problems And Difficult Times In Life

I would like to share with you how to deal with adversity, problems and difficult times in life.

Whether you like it or not, challenges are a normal part of life. Things will happen that are out of your control. How you choose to respond to those challenges when they arise is reflective of your emotional state.

It is easy to get caught in the trap of “why me” or “life is unfair”, but these limiting beliefs don’t serve your higher self.

In the words of Tony Robbins, “When your life doesn’t match your blueprint of how you expect it to be, you're upset, but when it doesn’t match and you feel that theres nothing you can do, that’s when people suffer.”

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The good news is that there is ALWAYS something that you can do.  Take a new approach to life. Focus on creating beliefs that empower you to take action and rise above the obstacles that are standing in your way of success. So many people live in a state of stress because they are unable to control what happens to them. Stress manifests itself when expectations cannot be met.

You have two choices – you can either change your reality or change your expectations. When life doesn’t match our expectations, it’s easy to feel like we have failed, but life itself is uncertain. I guarantee you that there will be times when things don’t work out the way that you planned.

You can do your best to make your ‘perfect plan’ in life unfold, but there are so many events in life that are outside of our control. What would happen if you stepped back, surrendered, and stopped controlling everything in your life?

In the words of Eckhart Tolle, “Sometimes surrender means giving up trying to understand and becoming comfortable with not knowing.”  There is freedom in letting go of expectations and control. We don’t fully understand our strengths until we are tested by adversity, problems, and difficult times in life.

Trust the process of life, relinquish control, and know that everything happens for a reason. I'm not saying that you shouldn’t prepare and work hard in life, but learn to accept whatever happens, and be okay with it. If you took this perspective, what would this do for your life?

In the words of Ann Landers, “Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life and repeat to yourself the most comforting words of all – this too shall pass.” Have complete acceptance of what is and faith that all is well in your world.

When you adopt this mindset, you will more easily attract what you want into your life. No matter how tough things appear right now, trust that you will make it through, and that you will come out the other end stronger and more powerful than ever before.

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Video transcript:

Let me ask you a question. What would happen to you in your life if you stop trying to control things as much, that you did everything you could to succeed, to achieve your goals, to take action but you let go of the attachments of things happening the way that you believe are supposed to happen. Now, the reason why I bring that up is I see a lot of people in life that they're always stressed out and stress comes when your expectations aren't being met. When you're always trying to control life and believing that life has to be a certain way and this has to happen or this shouldn't happen.

Then often times, what happens is people, they're always stressed out, they always have anxiety, they're always living in fear, they're always suffering on some level. Because life is totally uncertain. Life is unknown. You could do the best that you can that create the life that you want to achieve your goals and results.I can promise you, there's going to be parts of life, of things that are going to occur that aren't going to work out the way you want them to work out. I find so many people, what happens is, things happen in life and they resist things so much. They resist emotions, they resist outcomes and results that occur.

Whenever you resist, persist in your life. I was actually having a conversation with a coach and he said that, we're talking about this. All emotions only last 90 seconds. That's it. All emotions last 90 seconds unless you resist them. See, a lot of people … If you just let an emotion be, you don't judge it, you don't try to control it, you don't try to resist it and think I shouldn't feel this way or whatever it is, it just passes. Every emotion will pass, everything that you're going to through right now will pass. Every failure, or adversity, or hardship, or challenge that you're going through or problem will pass.

If you just trust the process of life and relinquish that control of things always happen to be a certain way. My belief is, I love working hard and hustling. There's a time in my life where it's just hustle and it's just always trying to control things in my life. As a result, I was always stressed. Don't get me wrong. I like the hustle mentality. I love people like Gary Vaynerchuk and Grant Cardone. The crush it mentality but that is a very stressed way of living life. I believe in the hustle but also trusting that everything happens for a reason.

Trusting that I'm guided, trusting that everything will work out because it always does. It always does. Everything always works out. Did you find that in your life? I remember for me years ago, I was so attached to at one point, just meeting women. I was a single guy and I wanted to get a girlfriend. I was so attached to that outcome become a reality. As a result, I was always frustrated and upset because I didn't have that result. Things didn't work out the way I wanted to. I'd go out and I try to meet someone, it didn't work out. I get a phone number, I called the girl and she wouldn't call me back.

I was always stressed, I was always in pain, I was always suffering. It wasn't until I just let go of the outcome. I said, “You know what? I'm going to go out. I'm going to meet people. I'm going to be myself. I'm going to grow to be the best I can be. I'm going to add value and serve.” Then, whatever happens, happens. Whatever happens, happens. Whatever turns up in my life and I create, I manifest, that's okay. If I'm meant to attract this person and meant to be in my life, they will. If not, that's okay, too. I understand that for some of you, you're so left brain analytical that you close off to something being a little bit more metaphysical.

Something more open and something more having faith, is really what it is. Because faith is a reason to believe when there's no reason to believe. It's having certainty in total uncertainty just because you decide to. Having the belief that things always happen the way they're supposed to. When I relinquish that control, you know what happen? I started to attract people in my life. I start to attract women in my life and have a much better experience of that because … I wasn't always stressed, I wasn't always attached to the outcome and things having to be a certain way.

Things wouldn't work out with this one girl and I say, “Thank you, God. Thank you. What's next? What's next?” You know what? I was grateful for that because that made an opening for the right person to be in my life. I remember years ago, many years actually throughout my early 20s and beyond that before that. I remember this one girl broke my heart. There's been many that broke my heart. I was really attached to them and I thought they're amazing and I was in love with them. At the time when that happened, I was devastated. I was like really hurt and sad and depressed over that.

Today, I'm like, “Thank you. Thank you so much.” Because I'm so grateful that I'm not with that person. I'm so grateful that it wasn't the right fit for me. Nothing wrong with them but just aligned with who I am and everything. I'm grateful for that but at the time, I couldn't see beyond that because I was very attached to things being with that person and having a certain expectation of that. I'm grateful for that because if I was with that person and things worked out the way that I wanted them to, I would be miserable. I'd be unhappy. I will not be who I am today.

Because it didn't work out and I'm so thankful for the universe or God or whatever you want to call it that it didn't work out, it's allowed me to attract the woman that I'm meant to spend my life with today, and for me to be who I am today. Because I was just so short sighted, I wasn't able to see that. I wasn't able to have altitude and perspective. I remember times with my business man, I remember years ago, I was learning internet marketing and I was doing some gray hat search engine optimization at the time which involved getting all these backlinks to your site that were like low-quality backlinks.

I was like ranking and making some money and getting some results from that. I was like getting excited for that. What happened was, Google changed their algorithms and then, boom. My website got wiped out. All my traffic went away and I remember being so stressed about that and so upset and devastated. I tried all these things to control the outcome. Today, I'm so thankful for that. I'm thankful for that because if that didn't happen, I wouldn't have learned the right way of doing things and I wouldn't have gone through what I needed to go through that led me into different direction to having a life and who I am today.

I'm sure I can go on and on but I'm sure you have moments like that, too. Moments of your life that were painful and challenging, devastating for you adversity. That you look back upon today and you're like, “Wow. I'm actually happy that things didn't work out the way that I wanted them to. Because I'm on the other side now and things are much better.” Why go through the suffering? Why go through the pain of that? Why go through the frustration, the stress that a lot of people have to go through, instead of just trusting life.

Trusting that everything happens the way it's supposed to. Trusting that everything happens for a reason and a purpose and that it serves you. Maybe believing that you're guided. Maybe believing that everything is a gift and a blessing in disguise because I believe that it really is. Everything serves a purpose in your life. Again, I know this is spiritual or deeper for some of you. Maybe some of you haven't … Your consciousness is not open to this yet and that's fine.

Some of you are like, “Yeah, this is awesome.” For me, it's not until … Because I was there. I've been in that mentality, don't get me wrong. I've been there and I've now evolved.  I feel in many different ways where I just trust, “Hey, you know what? Things happen.” I remember actually just today, what happened was, I was recording this videos about an hour-long video and it was a really good video. I was like, “Man, I'm crushing this video right now. It's going awesome.” Then, I went to my computer, I took the memory card to look at the video. Half of the audio was missing because the battery on my mic died.

In the past, oh my God. In the past, I would have been like, “Oh, my God. This is horrible.” I just spent an hour and it didn't work out. I would just gotten so stressed and upset. It would ruin my whole day. You know what happened today? I was like, “Yeah, that's all right. That's okay. It just wasn't meant to be that way.” I said, “You know, that's fine. I'm just going to do it again.” It was an hour but that hour maybe it was a blessing. Maybe the new video is going to be better. Or maybe it's going to help me and serve me in some way.

Whereas it meant to happen this way, so I can learn to check my battery and make sure my battery is there, so that this doesn't happen again. I just looked at in a positive way and I didn't fight it, I didn't resist life, I didn't resist what happened. I just said, “Ah, this is meant to happen.” Therefore, I didn't have any stress. I didn't get upset. I didn't freak out. I just trusted that this is just part of life. It's part of my journey, my process. I remember a good friend of mine who's a public speaker. We're in Palm Springs one time and he was going to speak at this event in front of about a thousand people.

I said, “Okay. Do you know what you're going to say? Are you ready? Have you rehearsed and memorized or stuff?” He said, “I got no idea what I'm going to say.” I said, “What? What do you mean? How can you just go out there to a thousand people. You had to speak for an hour or two. You have no idea what you're going to say.” He said, “You know what? I'm going to go up there. I'm just going to trust. I'm going to trust that whatever comes out of me, is guided in me and was meant to come out that way. Then, if it's a great speech, awesome. It was meant to be great. If it's a horrible speech, it was meant to be horrible.”

He released the attachment of it. Therefore, he didn't have any stress or anxiety. He trusted that things happen the way it's supposed to. Now, of course, I'm not saying that you shouldn't prepare. I'm not saying that you shouldn't work hard. I'm not saying that you should just sit there in your couch and just believe that everything is going to work out for you in your life. Of course, you have to take action. You got to take the necessary things in life and do what's required. At the same time, what I'm saying is, accepting the results. Being okay with it. Not fighting as much. Not resisting as much.

Trusting that everything is happening for a higher purpose. What would that do for you in your life? How would that free you? What would that do for your body, your health? I don't know about you but for me, I feel more free in my body. I feel more relaxed, I feel more peaceful, I feel happier for sure. I remember the book, The Peaceful Warrior by Dan Millman. There's a, maybe it wasn't in this book. He had a followup one called, I think called The Way of The Peaceful Warrior or something like that. Shared a story about someone that their house got burnt down. They're outside the house, the house is burning down.

It goes, “God, that's fine.” It didn't have any attachment to him. He's like, “You know, this materialistic stuff doesn't define me. I'm not attached to it. It's not who I am. It's not like I got to take this house with me into the afterlife and once I pass on.” He didn't have attachment to that. I said, “You know what? This was meant to happen. Everything will work out. Everything will be fine. It always has, always will.” He just had a free mentality about it. I just offer this as a different perspective for you today. Accept it if you like. Reject it if you resist it. Whatever. If you're open to it, great. If you're not, that's fine, too.

Not everyone is. Not everyone thinks this way. I want to offer this to you for those that are open to it and that are wanting to maybe evolve to a higher level than just things happening by me but things happening through me. There's actually a model for this. I won't have time today to go into it but as things happening to you, things happening by you, things happening through you or things happening as you. By you is a lot of people, they jump in the river of life and they're trying to go upstream and they're trying to swim. What happens is, you get exhausted when you're hustling all the time.

It's like, “Ha, ha, ha. Hustle, hustle, hustle.” You know, hustling. You tire yourself out, you burn out. That's the hustle mentality a lot of people live in. Whereas, things happening through you are more … You're hustling, you're making progress, you're moving your feet but you're not resisting as much in life, is really what it is. I'll maybe go deeper into that in another video. Hopefully you guys enjoyed this. It can help you just understand that life is great, life is beautiful. Everything happens for a reason and a purpose. Open your mind up to that, create new beliefs that empower you and serve you.

Take on a different approach to life, a more fulfillment. Because why are we stressed all the time? Why worry all the time? Why have anxiety all the time? What was the things you worry about, you're stressed about, you have anxiety about don't even come to fruition anyway. If you ever had that, it's like you're worrying about something. The thing you're worrying about, ended up being totally fine. Then, why did you have to spend those days and weeks worrying about something and suffering over when it's not even … It's so silly to actually do that. It doesn't really make any sense. Just trust the process of life more.

Trust that there's a higher purpose. Trust the universe or God, if you may. Whatever your belief is but relinquish some of that control and trust. Stop trying to resist as much. You'll be fine. I don't care how tough things are right now for you. You will make it through it. You will. It's just a temporary road block. It's just a temporary hurdle. When you come out the other side of it, they'll be better off for it. If you look at it that way, if you choose to perceive things that way. Then, it will. All right, my friends.

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